Are you guilty of fighting yourself? Me too. Here's what I learned:

During an emotional talk with a mentor last week, he said to me, "I'm going to try to put this {forthcoming lesson} in a way that doesn't come out..." which I immediately cut off with "I can take it."  (That's my go-to right answer).

And then he said something that completely floored me and had never entered my rather circular and sometimes self-defeating cycle of thought: "just because you CAN take it doesn't mean that you have to, or should."

Mind blown. The chain was instantly broken. 

This may not be true for many of you reading this, but those of you who also come from the same tired, old patterns of self-sabotage will recognize it instantly. 

I've long prided myself on being ready for battle at all times. Because I've expected war. In so doing, I've called it into my life. And if there was no one attacking from the outside, I'd just subconsciously create it from the inside - attacking myself. 

It sounds insane now that I'm putting it to paper but it's the truth - and I KNOW that my fellow cancerians 🦀 know one thing for sure - when our emotions are driving the tank, logic gets tossed out the back window at 80 mph.  

But when this man told me that I didn't have to make life hard on myself, that I was worthy of success, and that I need to get out of my own damn way (my words, his message), he threw a kink in the armor.

My value is not determined by my fight. 

I have come a LONG way, baby. And this doesn't mean I'm lying down. It means I'm no longer giving energy to creating a fictional struggle in my mind where there is none. 

I'm fucking awesome. At times I'm totally Badass and at times I'm a huge crybaby. I offer dead on balls accurate advice to so many people and have been guilty of failing to listen to it when it's my own inner child asking for help. 

So hear this, little Jaime, and all those of you out there who know exactly what I'm talking about: you are loved. 💞

This is not a war.  My sharp wit is a tool from God - not a weapon - and it is meant for so much more than puncturing my own self esteem.

Stop making it so hard on yourself. 

And if this speaks to you, please do me a huge favor and share it or tag a friend. This could be the thing that makes someone start believing in themselves and they deserve to hear it 💞